WILL HE COME BACK?
Question
I'm a 24-year-old girl who met and dated a foreign guy lastSeptember. He stayed at his boss' house, so I advised him to find his own placeand helped him to make the place presentable by buying him a few homeappliances. He wanted me to become pregnant but because I was a student Irefused. Then he dated his neighbour and they slept together. She lied and saidshe was pregnant. My boyfriend told me he didn't want me anymore, but we gotback together when he discovered she had lied. At times he'd call me just tohave sex and would chase me away afterwards. He's now dating someone else and doesn't want me, saying he's married.I'm still in love with him. Will he ever come back to me?
Answer
He has on several occasions shown you he doesn't value orneed you in his life, and he doesn't love you as much as you love him. It'sclear he's using you only to satisfy his sexual needs. Unfortunately, you'reunable to see that because you're still holding the torch of hope that youmight get back together. He's moved on and you should too. Do yourself afavour: forget him. There are many men who will love and appreciate you.
I HAVE NO CONFIDENCE
Question
I'm a 31-year-old woman and I have low self-esteem. I shoutat my boyfriend a lot as he's soft and calm. Please help me.
Answer
Sometimes we have experiences growing up, the effects ofwhich show up only later in life. You need to think about what could have ledyou to become the kind of person you are. Once you've done that, you'll be ableto build your self-esteem. A counsellor can help you and teach you how tocommunicate with your boyfriend. It would also be beneficial if he attends thesessions with you. Call Famsa on 011-975-7106 for a centre near you.
